Exactly -- their preferences aren't important to me. It's not my job to be your social life. I'm busy -- I have a more than full time job, hobbies, an SO, friends, and an awesome dog. I've got 2-3 nights per month to hang out with work people, and I use them doing something I enjoy.
See how all those statements were about me? That's because this is about my free time. And you, and all my coworkers for that matter, have no claim on it.
> I've got 2-3 nights per month to hang out with work people, and I use them doing something I enjoy.
That's super-great for you, but what if work people don't want to do something that you enjoy? Lemme guess: you won't hang out with them, right? Because that'd be a waste of your time.
Fun fact: that's the definition of you are not being included. But you didn't want to be invited to their uncool party anyways, right?
> And you, and all my coworkers for that matter, have no claim on it.
Why do you even bother hanging out with your coworkers at all? Like, what's in it for you? Are they just extra bodies filling in the space for doing something you enjoy?
That's super-great for you, but what if work people don't want to do
something that you enjoy? Lemme guess: you won't hang out with them, right?
Because that'd be a waste of your time.
Yes, exactly! I hang out with them when we do stuff together I enjoy; when they don't I decline. eg I find baseball boring, so when invited I say thanks but no thanks.
It's like being an adult with a life. This is clearly upsetting to you for some strange reason.
See how all those statements were about me? That's because this is about my free time. And you, and all my coworkers for that matter, have no claim on it.