One thing I would point out though is that her statement that she didn't have to conform was based on working on a predominantly black team. So, she's saying that due to the visible conformity she no longer felt the need to conform in other social aspects, like games and beer? If that is the case then she will never feel comfortable in a diverse team. A true diverse team will never have enough similarity, physical or social, for her to feel comfortable and she'll alwasy feel the pressure to conform.