>When you tell someone to keep their complaints to themselves
I'm not telling anyone this. I'm saying that feeling excluded is, in this case, a personal problem, not an everyone else problem, particularly when the author admits that the only reason she feels excluded is because her co-workers don't conform to her preferred racial and social characteristics. I (and I think most people) have been in the minority before; the important thing is to accept that not everyone else behaves exactly as you do. Trying to impose your preferences on everyone else is not the fair approach.
I'm not telling anyone this. I'm saying that feeling excluded is, in this case, a personal problem, not an everyone else problem, particularly when the author admits that the only reason she feels excluded is because her co-workers don't conform to her preferred racial and social characteristics. I (and I think most people) have been in the minority before; the important thing is to accept that not everyone else behaves exactly as you do. Trying to impose your preferences on everyone else is not the fair approach.