in the sense of "writing a brainfuck compiler in ed," not in making them so uncomfortable they beg for release. plus, "feminization" is not a fetish, at least in the sense of making rustc say "i love you;" that feels incredibly uncharitable.
i was being charitable, not obtuse. a great number of my closest friends are trans; no element of their experience as i observe it fetishizes the very concept of transition, and those who've spoken to me about it are quite opposed to the "pornification" (as opposed to even sexualization) of trans people (particularly women) by the community itself, and others. if you're at all curious, i thought [0] was pretty informative.
all that to say, trans people (or anyone) shouldn't need to qualify their position (or very lighthearted, energetic opinion piece) with some genericizing disclaimer as to their identity, intents, etc., on the very basis of their identity. live and let live (i.e. fuck off)
It's because of the autogynephilia. Most of the men who desire to be women, or at least, their male gaze fantasies of women, are driven to this by erotic desire.
in the sense of "writing a brainfuck compiler in ed," not in making them so uncomfortable they beg for release. plus, "feminization" is not a fetish, at least in the sense of making rustc say "i love you;" that feels incredibly uncharitable.