Back when I was dating online dating had just started and I went out on a few dates with women I met online and it all seemed to go OK.
But in the end all the successful relationships I ever had were people I met in real life. Is it really that hard to meet people in real life these days? I mean, in fairness, I was on a campus most of that time, and so mingling is sort of built in. But surely there are other contexts where people mingle?
Society has made many of what were originally the most common places to meet your future spouse now taboo to ask someone out. For example, before dating apps, something like 30-40% of relationships leading to marriage started in the workplace.
My personal experience, the boring sexual harassment training, and talking to the AI, suggests that asking out a coworker at the same level of the org chart with whom you don't closely work is not considered really problematic, especially among young people.
You can't ask out someone you supervise and its considered a little socially risky to get involved with someone who you work with really closely, but nothing seems to prevent coworkers from asking each-other out, as far as I can tell.
Some people, yes. Go on a dating subreddit and ask where to meet people, and a lot of them will say "on the apps," and that they don't want to be bothered on the occasions when they go out in public.
That's the always-online contingent, though. In real life, a lot of people still go out and would be glad to be chatted up in person. By someone they find attractive, of course, but that's always been the case. If you do it today, one advantage is that you stand out, since so many are afraid to do it.
Bars are like 3:1 men to women, so not much chance there. Church is not an option for atheists. Cafés and libraries are not places where you go to talk with random strangers. Clubs and sports are expensive.
At the risk of sounding like a cave dweller even though I'm out and about my capital city every day... I think a lot of people are staying home. Understandably so.
They're exhausted from work, commutes, everything costing more money, being advertised/pitched/upsold to at every chance, crypto bros, noise, constant calls to their attention, being the target or witness of unsavory interactions, etc.
There are a bunch of reasons to hate it "outside", in increasing numbers, with at best no increase in reasons to enjoy it.
But in the end all the successful relationships I ever had were people I met in real life. Is it really that hard to meet people in real life these days? I mean, in fairness, I was on a campus most of that time, and so mingling is sort of built in. But surely there are other contexts where people mingle?