Okay look I feel like you really took the wrong stuff away from my comment. Race was just an easy example to draw on, it wasn’t my point.
> I think the left (or a major segment of it) has consistently called for blurring the lines between matters of taste and legitimate criticism, and actual spite. Shirking urban gibberish and seeking out a relationship partner of your own race and cultural background isn't usually rooted in spite.
Like man look I wasn’t really trying to get into a discussion about racism or call you racist or something. I could just as easily have talked about bullying of disabled people or something. Anyone who the cultural subterfuge identifies as an outgroup. That being said, “urban gibberish?” Maybe the race thing tripped a nerve or something.
> I've never seen a bully that picks on minorities as a whole. They pick on peculiar individuals with unpopular traits.
The way I was intending to use the word minority was to refer to those deemed “peculiar” by the group; i.e., I agree with you.
The way that the bully chooses their target is often by finding the individual isolated from the group. We should then ask why that person was excluded, to which my general answer is that they had traits disliked/alienated in that cultural subterfuge I mentioned.
> If you think only racial minorities can be victims of racism, you're very wrong. I would argue that minorities are often meaner to majority-aligned victims than the other way around.
If you want to have a discussion about race, we can do that instead, but I wasn’t talking about this in any way. The thing that matters for bullying is usually being a statistical minority. A white kid in a largely black school may also get bullied.
>I think bullies are often unhappy people themselves, or else they have a social dysfunction that makes them apathetic toward how their behavior affects others. But what do I know.
I don’t know why you can’t see that you’re literally agreeing with me. That unhappiness or apathy is precisely why many bullies are able to violate norms that would ordinarily prevent them from being cruel or violent.
>I would be surprised if non-bullies didn't think awful thoughts, perhaps far worse than what bullies think.
Yes, that’s the deeper layer of social values manifesting is my point. The bully is the avatar of the group that is often quite cruel, but unwilling to actualize that cruelty. The bully is like a pressure relief valve for all that disdain.
Sorry, I saw too many seemingly coded phrases. The way some people stir up racial strife or greatly exaggerate it really bugs me.
I think we're in agreement generally but I would like to point out that no matter how you cut it, I don't think simply being in a statistical minority alone is sufficient to get bullied. There has to be an actual seemingly negative trait that goes with it. Models are in a minority but they are rarely bullied. I think it's also possible that some cases of bullying are as much about the victim's reaction as they are about the offense. For example, we don't know how often "normal" people have to deal with abuse from others, and they may not be identified as bullying victims because they have somehow handled the problem without being too distressed. The classic example might be how middle school boys used to always call each other gay as a routine insult. Most of them laughed it off. The few that actually were gay or insecure about their appearance (or not having a girlfriend) might have felt bullied.
> I think the left (or a major segment of it) has consistently called for blurring the lines between matters of taste and legitimate criticism, and actual spite. Shirking urban gibberish and seeking out a relationship partner of your own race and cultural background isn't usually rooted in spite.
Like man look I wasn’t really trying to get into a discussion about racism or call you racist or something. I could just as easily have talked about bullying of disabled people or something. Anyone who the cultural subterfuge identifies as an outgroup. That being said, “urban gibberish?” Maybe the race thing tripped a nerve or something.
> I've never seen a bully that picks on minorities as a whole. They pick on peculiar individuals with unpopular traits.
The way I was intending to use the word minority was to refer to those deemed “peculiar” by the group; i.e., I agree with you.
The way that the bully chooses their target is often by finding the individual isolated from the group. We should then ask why that person was excluded, to which my general answer is that they had traits disliked/alienated in that cultural subterfuge I mentioned.
> If you think only racial minorities can be victims of racism, you're very wrong. I would argue that minorities are often meaner to majority-aligned victims than the other way around.
If you want to have a discussion about race, we can do that instead, but I wasn’t talking about this in any way. The thing that matters for bullying is usually being a statistical minority. A white kid in a largely black school may also get bullied.
>I think bullies are often unhappy people themselves, or else they have a social dysfunction that makes them apathetic toward how their behavior affects others. But what do I know.
I don’t know why you can’t see that you’re literally agreeing with me. That unhappiness or apathy is precisely why many bullies are able to violate norms that would ordinarily prevent them from being cruel or violent.
>I would be surprised if non-bullies didn't think awful thoughts, perhaps far worse than what bullies think.
Yes, that’s the deeper layer of social values manifesting is my point. The bully is the avatar of the group that is often quite cruel, but unwilling to actualize that cruelty. The bully is like a pressure relief valve for all that disdain.