I think it's 90% contextual and depends on who you happen to be with. Just like the whole "alpha male" idea, or even the economic concept of value of goods/services (subjective theory of value).
People try and generalise too much to make these clunky mental models of the world and of people.
With the internet it's increasingly common for a person's preferred social group to be somewhere online, and the people you meet in your daily life IRL are not of this group, they are not "your people" and it's tiring to deal with them. Even if you were to meet those people IRL the dynamics would be different IRL. The whole thing is kind of cursed.
People try and generalise too much to make these clunky mental models of the world and of people.
With the internet it's increasingly common for a person's preferred social group to be somewhere online, and the people you meet in your daily life IRL are not of this group, they are not "your people" and it's tiring to deal with them. Even if you were to meet those people IRL the dynamics would be different IRL. The whole thing is kind of cursed.