Which in turn becomes the dichotomy between wanting the diagnosis and thinking the diagnosis is silly.
You start off with some institution that has a set of rules on paper, which nobody actually follows or even reads because they discover what they're expected to do via social cues. Then someone with autism doesn't pick up on the social cues, commits a faux pas, and the administration flips through the rule book to find whatever rule they can be found to have broken in order to punish them.
The autistic individual is then told that they are bad and need to learn to follow the rules, so they read the rule book cover to cover and follow every rule to the letter. But many of the rules are aggressively stupid and impractical or even purposely designed to be violated by ordinary behavior so the administration always has an excuse to punish whoever they want. Strictly following them is also a faux pas.
The question then is what to do about it. The autistic individual wants some accommodations so they're not constantly being punished for not picking up social cues. The administration wants them to take some drug that makes them stop being atypical, or to be rid of them. These are, of course, two very different and incompatible things.
You start off with some institution that has a set of rules on paper, which nobody actually follows or even reads because they discover what they're expected to do via social cues. Then someone with autism doesn't pick up on the social cues, commits a faux pas, and the administration flips through the rule book to find whatever rule they can be found to have broken in order to punish them.
The autistic individual is then told that they are bad and need to learn to follow the rules, so they read the rule book cover to cover and follow every rule to the letter. But many of the rules are aggressively stupid and impractical or even purposely designed to be violated by ordinary behavior so the administration always has an excuse to punish whoever they want. Strictly following them is also a faux pas.
The question then is what to do about it. The autistic individual wants some accommodations so they're not constantly being punished for not picking up social cues. The administration wants them to take some drug that makes them stop being atypical, or to be rid of them. These are, of course, two very different and incompatible things.