Part of it is ultra concentration of white men with few or no women in the Bay Area imo.
If you have zero social life and zero chance of a social life and the aperture of available activities is purely constrained to ultra pure social media groups of similar white men and you never interact with women individually or as a group …
Society is generally breaking down and falling apart at that point.
Normally I would expect men to moderate their behavior if there are women going: “eghhhhhh idk that is tooooooo far guys you need to chill out.”
That isn’t happening anymore, and hasn’t been happening for a while.
So now you are getting a sort of ultra distilled white male in group effect.
Women civilize men, generally, and that hasn’t been happening for years.
You are going to get cults and they are going to get more crazy.
Things like imagining a heaven where you get 77 virgins (Muslim religion) are byproducts of highly stressed out societies where men have next to zero prospects.
It’s not good. The media isn’t going to fix it tho.
My life personally post covid has declined considerably in the social domain. My circle has gotten more and more narrow and I feel more and more weird and isolated.
I don’t want to be weird and isolated. I would rather have friends and a community.
So what do I do? I actually go to church now. That’s literally my only option and I’m not even that religious.
Remote work and the isolation has put incredible stress on me as an animal. I don’t like this.
You make a good overall point here but you've really compromised it by saying 'white men' because:
1. That particular phrase has been massively overused in a disparaging way by 'wokists' and a lot of people are going to see those words and just assume you're 'one of them' and ignore you
It seems to me that women and non-white people are just as vulnerable to hype cycles and cult behaviour as white men are.
I do agree that lack of "well-roundedness", for lack of a better word, in some tech circles is part of the cause of this sort of thing. But again, non-white men are just as vulnerable to that as white men.
If you have zero social life and zero chance of a social life and the aperture of available activities is purely constrained to ultra pure social media groups of similar white men and you never interact with women individually or as a group …
Society is generally breaking down and falling apart at that point.
Normally I would expect men to moderate their behavior if there are women going: “eghhhhhh idk that is tooooooo far guys you need to chill out.”
That isn’t happening anymore, and hasn’t been happening for a while.
So now you are getting a sort of ultra distilled white male in group effect.
Women civilize men, generally, and that hasn’t been happening for years.
You are going to get cults and they are going to get more crazy.
Things like imagining a heaven where you get 77 virgins (Muslim religion) are byproducts of highly stressed out societies where men have next to zero prospects.
It’s not good. The media isn’t going to fix it tho.
My life personally post covid has declined considerably in the social domain. My circle has gotten more and more narrow and I feel more and more weird and isolated.
I don’t want to be weird and isolated. I would rather have friends and a community.
So what do I do? I actually go to church now. That’s literally my only option and I’m not even that religious.
Remote work and the isolation has put incredible stress on me as an animal. I don’t like this.