But that stands in direct opposition with the claim
> Friends are extremely loyal to each other and you have to be able to trust that the other person will act in your best interest.
because you're trusting your friends will act with above 0% effort.
I actually expect a lot of my friends, and they expect a lot of me. I'm not talking financially, or anything like that. I mean I expect them to be invested in the friendship itself. I don't care to associate with people who don't see friendships as investments. Things to be nurtured, protected, grown and depended upon.
Many people are very OK with having such friendships but I am enough of an introvert that friendship has to give me some amount of value that is more than what I create for myself when left to my own devices. And that requires a level of commitment from myself well above 0%.
It’s not contradictory. It takes zero effort to keep someone’s secrets. It takes almost no effort to chat with and hang out with someone that I’m comfortable with, atleast anecdotally. It takes zero effort to back someone wholeheartedly in a situation.
On a tangent another thing between my friends and I is a constant stream of barbless insults. It keeps things light, fun and airy.
> Friends are extremely loyal to each other and you have to be able to trust that the other person will act in your best interest.
because you're trusting your friends will act with above 0% effort.
I actually expect a lot of my friends, and they expect a lot of me. I'm not talking financially, or anything like that. I mean I expect them to be invested in the friendship itself. I don't care to associate with people who don't see friendships as investments. Things to be nurtured, protected, grown and depended upon.
Many people are very OK with having such friendships but I am enough of an introvert that friendship has to give me some amount of value that is more than what I create for myself when left to my own devices. And that requires a level of commitment from myself well above 0%.