> For example, I've been in plenty of situations where all it would take is somebody to turn to me and say...
Do you turn to them and say that?
In my experience, coming up with the opening line is the hardest part. Once you've determined some common ground to start off on, it's easy to keep going. Meeting at some sort of shared interest environment alleviates this.
Without that, it's basically the same as going to an LLM and saying "Hello, how are you?"
1. Once you've tried a few times and failed at almost 100% to have anything fruitful come from it, it's easy to blame yourself/want to stop trying
2. If you are going to be near me for 3 years+ on and off at a soccer game + post game drinks or whatever and not even put the effort in to know my name, I can't help but feel I would come off as the young kids say as "thirsty" and "unable to read the room" asking somebody uninterested to be a friend "hey... please be my friend!"
Do you turn to them and say that?
In my experience, coming up with the opening line is the hardest part. Once you've determined some common ground to start off on, it's easy to keep going. Meeting at some sort of shared interest environment alleviates this.
Without that, it's basically the same as going to an LLM and saying "Hello, how are you?"