I have a conspiracy theory that people recommending leaded solder (And reacting hostilely to suggestions it may be dangerous) are demonstrating the effects of lead exposure.
I don't think leaded solder is dangerous to the home hobbyist, provided reasonable precautions are taken (no food, drinks, or smokes on the bench and wash your hands immediately upon getting up from the bench).
If you're repairing something that used leaded solder, you pretty much have to use leaded solder. That's fewer and fewer things post-RoHS, but when you have something older, you're going to use leaded or you're going to have a bad time.
With a decent iron and flux, hand soldering with lead-free solder is fine. All my new work is lead-free, but I have zero concerns having my kids work with leaded solder at the frequency and using the reasonable precautions.
Also the supply chain: smelting and refining. Herculaneum Missouri has acres bulldozed of what used to be homes once they learned the children were born with lead poisoning. Before the dozing citizens put up warning signs telling people to take off their shoes when they got home and not to let their kids play in the contaminated public spaces.
I don't buy the "just wash your hands" argument.