That's actually my point. IF they are able to meet their obligations in nursing and their job is literally such a superior option to all the alternatives that they don't have 'optionality' then it's a weird flex to be angry at your one best(least bad) option that actually pays your rent and child support. Be angry that the alternatives aren't as good as the nursing gig you have.

I definitely feel for those paying child support, because 'imputed income' means you must pay at whatever rate the judge thinks you can make the best money at. You can never take a more relaxing lower paying job, because it will result in your imprisonment. Those people really have no future in the US -- their only option to throttle back their income is suicide, leave the country, or wait to go to jail. I blame society for the existence of these debtor's prisons, not nursing employers.

Seems you understand the more income -> more support trap. Mandatory overtime is considered in support calculations. That sets high water mark so going back to 40/hours week does not lower payments. I learned the hard way, and last employer I regularly sent email to boss thanking them for opportunity to work voluntary overtime. I would subpoena the boss's response of 'yes' for evidence in child support hearing to only use 40/hours week. The courts and county child support enforcement are wicked and liars.

Yes that never made the slightest sense to me. As someone married with a kid, when I get a raise or bonus it goes to my retirement -- not as a change in quality of life for a child who already has food/shelter/education. The kid still gets the same amount now as when I made significantly less. The idea that a kid needs more money because you worked overtime is quite possibly one of the dumbest ideas I've ever heard. At best it's simply backdoor alimony.

But the counter to that is, just because you work a minimum wage job and can't afford much child support, doesn't mean that what you can afford is enough to raise the child well. I expect it's very hard to say "the child needs _this_ much in order to be raised well" and then scale up from 0 to that amount as the parent makes more money. But you also can't just decide how much the child needs and then make the parent pay that much no matter how much they make. So the compromise is to base the amount paid on the amount the parent makes, and not really cap it. This has the benefit of allowing low earning parents to pay less, at the cost of high earning parents paying more (than is really needed).

>But you also can't just decide how much the child needs and then make the parent pay that much no matter how much they make.

This is basically how it works when you're married, though, at least in my family. Whether I'm unemployed or my work life is booming, the child cost the same for me as when I'm not. During bad times I liquidate my engineering tools / spend from savings / go into debt / sell my vehicle to take care of my kid if needed. On the flip side during the good times the extra money goes into investments and retirement. The amount I need to take care of the kid is fixed, with the amount I spend having virtually nothing to do with the amount I make. My level of personal real spending has changed very little since I got my first near minimum wage job after leaving home at 18; and definitely not linearly with my salary (at best I eat out more now, but that's because I'm busier making money). When the kid came they've always been a relatively fixed cost -- or at least unaffected by our salaries.

My kid would not be effected the slightest, better or worse, for my wage unless I was stuck below ~$12/hr for an extended time, so maybe it would make more sense to take a variable amount up to say $12/hr and then just a fixed price after that.

>doesn't mean that what you can afford is enough to raise the child well

Really depends. Some children grow up in situations where money is scarce but nonetheless have fulfilling childhoods that lead them towards success. It's also worth noting parents who can provide other things in lieu of money -- such as a homestead where they grow their own food and build their own house is perfectly acceptable in a marriage but somehow not acceptable as part of child support enforcement. It doesn't make sense.

>This has the benefit of allowing low earning parents to pay less

Again this is an odd choice. When I am making nothing, I still contribute half to the family costs. When I'm making 6 figures, my half stays the same. Both my wife and I have a deal where we pay half the costs. That way there is no resentment that someone is paying more just because they make more. It happens to be my wife makes significantly more money than me, but we still pay 50/50 costs of child and other bills with the remainder going into our own unshared accounts. It would be extraordinarily selfish and greedy of me for me to demand my wife to pay more simply because she makes more money, yet if we divorced this is precisely what the judge would order in many states. No matter how nasty the divorce I would simply return her share of her savings along with anything over half for spending of the child -- to not do so would make me a vile and greedy person who cowardly uses the violence of the state to unjustly take from others.

In our case the cost of the child is about 6-8% of our current salaries; so as you can see from child support calculators, about half of the money calculated by child support worksheets would be entirely for the lolz of the judge.

>So the compromise is to base the amount paid on the amount the parent makes

Unfortunately this isn't how it works, as above alluded. Once you make a certain amount it becomes your 'imputed income'. Once you set the precedent you can earn a maximum, the judge expects that to be your income you're capable of. You pay based on that higher amount whether you relax back to a lower paying job or not. In this way you're set up into a trap where if you try to get a higher paying job to save up to pay off years of child support, you're stuck in an even more fucked position and meanwhile if your kid is like mine and has a relatively fixed cost then the rest is bled off as backdoor alimony as a reward to your ex-spouse for divorcing you.