What you describe is very possible with a group of like minded developers; I think everyone, including those who are perceived as rude on the Internet, prefers that atmosphere.

In practice, however, many open source projects have socially dominant developers who incessantly rewrite everything and introduce bugs until some introvert correctness advocate explodes.

There is no way of dealing nicely with passive aggressive socially dominant people. They just continue their game until someone calls them out directly.

These days, of course, the introvert is canceled and they can carry on.