Well-paying jobs like this exist (I have one), but you need to be lucky to get one. You need to find a remote-friendly/first workplace with a good manager who knows you and trusts you, and then you need to push some more for those additional freedoms you desire. Simply say you're not doing stand-ups anymore. Chances are if they're already remote-friendly, then they can be nudged to give up even more control as long as you deliver.
To twist this slightly more positively: standups where remote or wfh people can join in and watch silently, and instead of forcing everyone to say something, just let people share what they want. And have a doc of notes for people who missed it and care. Way better than traditional standups.
Good luck and don't give up, it's worth it.