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I believe other cultures have just as much of a sense of freedom and individualism, but the family dynamics are different in a way that parents themselves understand that freedom.

If you moved back with your parents, I assume the problems would be as much yours as theirs. As if they would expect to still be treating you as a child. I've seen that with all my American friends and relatives and that's the reason all of them hate being home: they cannot stand their parents treating them as kids. It's a really weird thing.

In other cultures I have experience with (South America), the kids' individualism and freedom grow as they grow, even if they're under the same roof. In other words, their identity comes from their own growth, not from being sent away. It's common for people to still live with their parents well into their 30s -- normally, until they get married, although it's common to just move your partner in. And when that happens, they normally share (and gradually take over) the costs and burden of living in the house.



That requires the parents to change the way that they interact with their children over time. That can be hard, especially if you never saw an example of it while growing up.


Cool perspective, I never considered that, makes sense!




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