Why this reaction? Please, look at everything going on in the US and the world not just this one aspect.

Except that’s just normalizing his behaviors.

It’s not. It’s mocking.

I like my politicians to be professional.

Haven’t you ever experienced having a story read to you, and falling into deep immersion and visualization?

Let me tell you about this thing called saliva…

Not when so much meat has sugar added to it.

Sugar makes an excellent spice, not a primary ingredient. It's really useful for grilling for instance.

And do that individually for each of the thousands of photos? There’s no select All. Yikes.

"I want my heart to harden."

You're just at a different place in the curve of rationalizing other humans' behaviors and motivations and how they affect you. Your response is not invalid, but it makes me sad, because you think it's the best response for you. Why wouldn't you instead hold on to your empathy and make it your super power?

> Why wouldn't you instead hold on to your empathy and make it your super power?

At least one reason would be because the empathetic person is usually the one bearing most of the cost of this "super power" while at best only sharing in the reward. Quite often entirely thankless work.

How exactly would empathy be a superpower? If I'm empathetic then I'm effectively making excuses for people who don't care that they make my work unbearable.

I'm very interested in your response. I have accepted that I have blind spots and I want to remove them.

Not "OP", but I will say that empathy can certainly help you build better things (tools, processes, policies, etc) for the people they affect.

It can also help you understand where coworkers or peers are coming from, and work with them better.

The problem comes when it's a one way road where the empathetic person is doing all the work.

That's exactly what happened. I tried improving processes and worked so hard that I neglected my wife.

I was removed because the team lead thought I'm going over his head... while I coordinated every move with him. But the moment I disagreed with him -- once, and for the first time -- I was removed. Zero discussion.

I'm quite empathetic. My original message above comes from bitterness because neither extreme is good. I was in the positive extreme for a while. Too sympathetic, always finding excuses for people who only saw me as a tool to advance their own careers and removed me the minute they thought that was no longer true.

Go somewhere you’re valued? Why compromise your own values to make your manager happy.

Empathy is a super power because it helps you understand people and connect with them, and connecting and collaborating is how we succeed. You’re deciding to cut that off in response to what sounds like a shit situation, like cutting off your own fingers.

I'm currently trying to go where I'm valued. Unlike a lot of privileged people who only have to pick up the phone, I actually have to do interviews. Takes time and a lot of energy.

As mentioned elsewhere, being empathetic landed me in this crappy situation so sometimes I have my doubts of the strategic value of that trait.

I don't punish others for the a-holery of those who wronged me. Seems to work wonders so far and things are turning around in a very positive way. I'm just despairing how much time it all takes.

Because "I haven't seen this literary tool" or "I wouldn't think to use it" or "It doesn't match my perception of human literary tools", it must be artificial.

It's far more telling that you'd imagine this is a literary tool so interesting or complex that other people haven't seen it or thought of it

https://www.google.com/search?q=it%27s+not+x+its+y

Speaking about telling it's called negative parallelism not " it's not x it's y". Don't be proud of ignorance even if you don't care for the subject.

Kinda funny how we went full circle with you calling me ignorant and illiterate on the basis of not using your preferred terminology, as opposed to the actual, obvious meaning of the subject

Ignorant and illiterate don't take the whip from me if you are so generous with it on yourself.

A PA explained to me once: they’re taught you have to sneak quietly into a room where the patient has been sitting in the dark listening to soothing music for 15 minutes and take their BP measurement without them noticing. Goals.

You are kidding but having hypertension issues for years, I can confirm you that tension is a highly-dynamic value that can change in few minutes for a lot of reasons. Here the standard toi

There's more evidence that taking with lying down is better.

Hard not to notice the squeeze from a pressure cuff.

Numb the arm by having the patient sit calmly with their left arm in an ice bath.

Sitting for minutes in extreme discomfort definitely won't change your BP! ;0)

oh my, they used my favorite solution for the how to draw a circle interview question